My least favourite topic. And I don’t even know the proper answer for it, because there is none! Or you know it or you don’t. Of course they say “ignorance is a bliss” and you can just pretend you don’t notice for your own peace of mind. That doesn’t work for me. Since I know my mind I have always hated liars. No matter how small is the lie, no matter how “white” it is. It’s a lie and nothing changes that.
If you really really have nothing else to do about the situation, then don’t do anything. Just don’t lie.
So let’s see now. How to be a walking lie detector. I’m going to put it into bullet points so you can see through it easily.
- you have to be naturally talented to see the lies
- you can also pay extra attention to details so you learn
- you should do lots and lots of “people watching” and people interacting with each other (one of my favourite pass times and it’s just so much fun)
Now the ones I write now are the obvious ones, which everybody knows who has ever read a book about body language or went on the internet and typed “how to tell when someone is lying”, but maybe some people cut off from all forms of civilisation – who will obviously not read my post – or some very young teens or their parents whom are hungry for the truth will use these below:
- extra control of body language (stiffness), even controlling the face, for instance if someone wants to tell you how happy they are for you and the only thing you see is a smile, and the eyes are ice cold or bored
to death… well… it’s a lie - touching the obvious “lie expressing organ”, the throat
- my personal favourite, and the easiest to control – not looking into your eye when lying
- the honesty of the emotion is questionable due to the delayed reactions or the emotion expressed and body language absolutely do not match
- overly detailing the topic lied about
- change of voice pitch
- going on happily if you change the subject
- trying to avoid the subject
- turning away from you (unconsciously)
- too much talking too fast
- too slow talking – they are trying to make up the story at the time they speak
- anxious body language
- and lots more…
Please don’t forget. Even if some of these “signs” appear together it doesn’t necessarely mean that the person is lying into your face. It could mean that the person is just a nervous, shy type or that particular attribute makes them the person they are. And this is when I say: do lots and lots of people watching, observing before you start to make up “liar” or “not liar” statements. You little Pinocchio! :)
